Definitely, I’m not giving up.” Ahh yes, a single man who is used to doing and getting what he wants, bravely refusing to give up hope that is in store. It doesn’t help that trend pieces like this one talk about “meaningful” relationships and experiences as if they are things you acquire once the keg is tapped and you’ve gotten bored of playing with all the shiny objects in the room.
I have to be very, very careful as I write this because I am now married and my husband is only 35 and sexy as.This is where I paused to do some mental math, and quickly realized that, for a piece focused so much on age, it sure does tiptoe around making any direct reference to the age of the these men are concerned they’ve missed out on. While financially strenuous, women can become parents on their own, without a male costar beyond what was ejaculated into a cup.But with many sharing Choffel’s belief that the “sense of life is to have kids,” odds are these lonesome straight bachelors are opting to date women with plenty of child-bearing years left. “I just turned 40,” Jonathan Lee told the “Thinking about the math, the longer I wait to start my own family, you start to think, ‘When I consider someone to marry, I have to find someone young enough to have children. Single women can also raise children with friends or family members as part of their core support system.Style section had a sobering little piece about single guys (mostly straight, though two gay men were quoted as well) in their 30s and 40s who are starting to realize that a successful career won’t massage their aching, aging knees and being the last guy to leave the club is not a good look. I found myself getting worked up about this piece despite it being fairly innocuous – it even features the nice story of 40-something guy who decided he wanted to settle down, went outside his comfort zone and ended up meeting a future wife and baby mama that my cynically-motivated Google stalking revealed is actually pretty age-appropriate.With most of their friends already married, these greying bachelors are torn up about the future. All his friends have significant others and children, so there’s no one to go out and get drunk with. But the sense of life is to have kids and try to give them as much as you know. I believe the day you go somewhere where you aren’t supposed to be, you end up falling in love and having babies. It’s not that I completely lack empathy for single men in my age range who are only now starting to crave deeper bonds; I just find it frustrating that the guys interviewed, not to mention guys I know, seem to think being emotionally available is a laborious buzzkill.